We make them all the time. The way you make choices says a lot about your character… analytical, impulsive, confident, insecure, bold, considerate…
When I was 19 I read a book by Krishnamurti - "On Fear" - that connected all of our motivations to either love or fear. This impacted me greatly – to understand that all the choices we make that create drama through selfish acts are connected to fear. All the choices that lead to peace, joy and understanding are connected to love. You can trace every act to one of these two roots. I started choosing love then – the best I could… the best I knew how.
I am big into choosing Love. It has become the foundation for all my choices. I consciously choose to move toward love instead of allowing fear to grip me.
A friend of mine asked me “Well… How do you do that? What does it look like to choose love?”
The thing is – fear doesn’t always look like something to fear. Our fears are elusive, even fleeting at times – but they are strong… like catfish…swimming in the murky water of our thoughts and emotions– hard to grasp or even see at times.
Our fears wear many disguises. Some of them are easy to recognize – jealousy, greed, vengeance, failure… others are harder to recognize as anything to move away from… like the guises of comfort, financial stability, acceptance, success.
So how do we wrap our hands our those slippery catfish swimming through the murky depths of our minds?
I started to think about this seriously… How do I choose love?… How do I strip down my fears and move forward with faith?
Over the years I have learned to start with asking myself these 3 questions:
If money did not exist… If there were no pay off in this situation, if there was nothing to gain or lose, if I did not have to wonder how it would manifest – as though I had a magic money wand – What would I want to do?
And then I play with this thought and allow myself to dream big.
If no one had any expectation of what I should do – my spouse, family, friends, colleagues, clients, community members – What would I want to do?
That opens up even more possibilities.
If there was nothing that I “should” do – What would I do?
I apply this one liberally to my life. It can open up many doors that lead to unexpected joy.
Then I will imagine the scenario free of any financial hold over me, free of any expectations of self or others.
There is always a choice that feels lighter. Even when there is no “right” or “wrong” answer there will be a choice that brings you closer to your alignment with higher self. It may not be easy, it may not even be logical but for some reason this idea will bring a lightness to your heart and a brightness to your vision. When we are aligned with our highest good things flow well for us, connections are made with ease, the abundance you are meant to have will come into your life in many ways.
In the near death experiences I have had I was able to glimpse life from another perspective. I sometimes think of this perspective as the Holy Mountaintop. Time and life scenarios extend as far as the eye can see. From this vantage everything – all choices – all circumstances – future and past– can be seen. Many times it may seem as though what we are giving up is not worth the risk – but often we never fully understand the reward either. This is when the Art of Choosing Love is essential. Our unconscious mind, our intuition, communicates with us through vibration. Vibration is easily felt as heaviness or lightness. When you tune in to how you really feel about things you may even feel sick or giddy from a strong vibration. Pay attention to these feelings, it is your intuition doing it’s best to guide you on to the highest ground for your life.
So – when all the cards are on the table – I clean off the table – wiping away considerations of money, expectation and what I think I “should” do - and start imagining the best possible scenario and the worst scenario for any choice I must make. With each scenario I tune into my heart and my womb space and feel for that vibration… do I feel heavy or light… What feels light has always been right for me. Even with the risk. Even with the sacrifice. My heart expands, my courage builds and joy comes into my life exponentially.
If it feels light- it must be right....